Anele Tembe and the Importance of Mental Health Awareness

They say we’re a sad generation with happy pictures. The tragic death of rapper AKA’s fiancé last Sunday proves this to be true.

22-year-old Anele “Nelli” Tembe fell from the 10th floor of the Pepperclub Hotel while the couple were visiting Cape Town.

The incident is being treated as a suicide after a previous attempt in December of 2020, where Tembe attempted to jump off of the Hilton Hotel in Durban but was coaxed down by police.

Though Tembe’s own Instagram was private, AKA’s account often depicted the happy couple smiling and living what seemed to be a perfect life.

This just goes to show that social media is not reflective of reality.

We scroll through hundreds of people posting their best moments online, specifically curated to show off only the times when they’re at their happiest when in truth everybody has their demons to fight behind the scenes.

If we constantly compare our lives to a showreel of other people’s highlights, we are bound to feel as though we don’t measure up because our lives don’t look like theirs.

Now more than ever it is so important to speak up about mental health and wellbeing.

Not only does this support us ourselves, but it helps others to feel less alone and works to destigmatize mental health issues that have long been the subject of judgment.

Calls to the South African Depression and Anxiety Group’s helpline have increased to 1400 calls per day since lockdown, and there is an average of 23 suicides and 460 attempts per day in South Africa alone.

Hard times don’t discriminate. No matter your gender, race, age, or bank balance, we all have internal battles at one time or another, and that that’s more than okay!

We’re only human after all, and we need to practice compassion towards ourselves and others – you never know what somebody might be going through, no matter what their Instagram looks like.

7 thoughts on “Anele Tembe and the Importance of Mental Health Awareness

  1. Tanusta Jainarain says:

    Most people dont understand depression and traumas.Ive had insensitive people tell me to snap “out of it” or ” get over it” which obv isnt easy and words like those set all our hard work back

  2. kgaboleago says:

    I am happy to read about such article because most people in our Black society are not aware of mental health some think if you say mental it means your crazy not knowing that anyone can have mental issues for instance my son is ADHD which is regarded as a mental health problem and yet he is as normal as any of us but other family members see this as some kind of sickness so reading more and learning more about mental can help our society to take things seriously and help each other with issues like this one am happy to read about this today iv learned a lot from this article thank you rubybox for this knowledge #rubybox

  3. joelene says:

    So true..We often take loved ones for granted not knowing what battles they have.its sad that they have to deal with this pain by themselves.Note to yourself *always treat others with kindness and respect *

  4. zayinleah says:

    People are going thru a lot and fighting demons and battles noone knows about behind closed doors. More needs to be done to reduce the stigma of speaking out about mental health issues. Powerful article thank you.

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