Jan
Articles, Relationships
Are you stuck in a situation-ship? 👫🏿
Many girls will have noticed that there is a new term in the dating world. Yip that’s right a situation-ship seems to be the new go to term to be used when you casually see a new guy but what really is the difference?
Apparently in a situation-ship there is less nagging, zero drama and lower expectations. Sounds like a convenient deal, right? If you investigate these situation-ships you will notice that the willing participants are usually the people who have trust issues or have been betrayed in their previous relationships.
Perhaps situation-ships are good at allowing two people to take it super slow and figure out exactly what they are to each other.
The word “situation-ship” is mostly used to describe friends with benefits, or people who are essentially dating but don’t say they’re dating or refer to the other person as their boyfriend and girlfriend. Situation-ships, aka ambiguous with no label on them, have been around for ages now. Trust me fam, sticky situations have been there from the beginning of time.
Situation-ships are thought of as emotional booty calls, because there are likely more feelings involved than just a cut-and-dry-friends-with-benefits. If you haven’t given a relationship a label yet but are hanging out in a non-platonic way, you might be in a situation-ship.
Does it mean people don’t get hurt in situation-ships? They do, so many egos have been bruised and hearts crushed into pieces. It’s usually when one catches feelings while the other is in it purely for fun. If you are spending time in a temporary location like traveling abroad or being temporarily relocated from work, a situation-ship might be a good thing.
As convenient and flexible as it sounds, one needs to be clear from the get go. Of course, there is no point in settling in a relationship that doesn’t serve you. But a situation-ship isn’t a ticket to be irresponsible and going around hurting people. Situation-ships can become painful if you want something more from the person you’re seeing, and they’re simply not on the same page
Are you stuck in a situation-ship? Be brave and transparent and initiate the dreaded relationship talks about where you currently are and where you would like to be, as far as an exclusive relationship with that person. Don’t expect to lock it down instantly. Define the relationship over and over again, with frequent check-ins to get temperature readings about where you guys are at.
rubies are any of you in a situation-ship and not sure how to move forward? Let us know in the comments below because we have all been there.
rubybox HQ
X
This just sounds sad, broken people need to heal because sooner or later they hurt others…. N in all cases of fwb I know someone always gets hurt….. Let alone its so risky… STD’s etc
But in all honesty we all been here knowingly or not…. For me it was my early 20s, completely naive, no idea what an actual relationship should be. That left alot of scars cos alot of the time emotions are there and deep😏
Neverthe less we live and we learn and whats meant for us and loves us will respect us, and bring joy into our lives ❤️
Stay safe ladies
Thanks Rubybox……. I wish my younger self would have read this
I’ve never heard of something like this but thanks for giving so much information about it I doubt I can relate to it though
This “situation-ship” thing is not for everyone hey , I will definitely catch feelings and it will be a mess for me so it definitely won’t work for me 🙈😂😂
had the conversation to check the temperatures of where we at and i must say guy does not even see the future..not okay……..
I’ll pass..guess I am old fashioned
I am in that situation and to be honest I don’t know how to get out of it. I mean at this point I can’t afford to do anything for myself so I moved on with a girl coz I can’t afford a place in Gauteng whole I’m job hunting, we ended up starting this “thing” and she’s not my type. It’s bad and I don’t know how to get out of it
I’m not sure whether it’s the same thing when you’re ex’s that can’t get the relationship to function but still attached to a point where you do things together but not really calling each other GF and BF. But actions are as if you’re together. I’m not sure whether I make some sense.
Situation-ships works for some people
Its the worse being in a Situation Ship and never move to the next ship…
while situationships can be fun..sometimes you have to let go..especially if you find you need more in your life and not necessarily from that person.