24
Jul
Articles, Relationships

What Is Your Love Language?

Posted on by Kathleen | 40 comments

We all want to feel understood, appreciated, cared for and wanted in our own ways and to just feel loved. Being loved and loving someone is one of the most beautiful things in this world – whether you’re still looking for love, or in love.

We all love differently, therefore, the way we want to be loved is different. It doesn’t necessarily fit into the “one size fits all” box. That theory is behind New York Times Best Seller’s The 5 Languages of Love book.

 

Unhappiness in a relationship could just be a simple root cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman.

While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages:

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Quality Time
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch

 

So – what is your love language and how do you figure out what your partners love language is? Dr. Gary Chapman’s short questionnaires is one way to find out. (Scroll further down to take the quiz)

Once you have established which love language holds higher importance in both yours and your partner’s life, it’s time to learn how to speak it. Learning how to speak it is just as important as identifying it. If you’re not showing the correct type of love your significant other needs, then your efforts won’t be appreciated as expected.

What you want might not be what the other person wants – let’s take a quick look at what each of the 5 love languages are:

1 love lang

 

 

 

So – whats my love language?

Click here to take the free online quiz – We suggest doing the quiz at the same time as your partner so that you can both share the results together.

Take the quiz and let us know what your love language is – is it right or were you surprised by the results?

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40 thoughts on “What Is Your Love Language?”

  2. Tamsyn K. says:

    MOST IMPORTANT TO MY LOVE LANGUEAGE

    Physical Touch 33%

    This Love Language™ isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary Love Language™ is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face – they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Physical touch fosters a sense of security and belonging in any relationship.

    Quality Time 23%
    In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there – with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby – makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. The Love Language™ of Quality Time also means sharing quality conversation and quality activities

  3. Jayshree P. says:

    Love, communication, respect and allow me to be myself and not to please my husband. As we go more into years of marriage, things should be done together and what is yours is mine and what is his is mine and support ech other in chores, making decisions and with the kids.

  9. Janet S. says:

    Good day

    Thank you for the article. I was married for 20 years, and after 15 years, no matter what I have done for him, it was never good enough. That was time to end the marriage because he always found other woman better than I could do.

    When a man or woman can no longer see the good in their partner, it is time to move on.

    Regards

    Janet